"You can pick your friends. You can pick your nose. But you can't pick your friend's nose."
- Robert Prahl
My father-in-law occasionally says this, although it's not unique to him. Essentially, there are limits to what we can do. We can love, serve, and influence others. But we cannot change them, or save them, or manipulate their behavior. This is a convicting thought, especially when you realize that you are imposing yourself on another. And it's a freeing thought, because it means that you don't have to change them. It allows you to rest in the transforming power of the One who made all friendships and all noses.